Sticks and Stones…
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I got on my bus this morning as I usually do, annoyed that I have to go to work yet again and freezing cold. My stop is the terminus and had the usual suspects queuing for the bus. People sat in their usual seats and tried to get comfy.
There are always one or two non-regulars and this morning was no different. There was a man bringing two little kids to school who sat across from me. The girl was about 6 or 7 and the boy a little younger. They were playing and for whatever reason the boy started to cry.
The man told him to stop and he wouldn’t so the man told him he was a little faggot cause only queers cry!!! My head spun so much so that I still have an ache in it. Everyone was horrified. Thankfully no one on the bus smiled or laughed, there was an atmosphere of total disgust. I sat there wondering if I’d heard what I thought I did so I turned off my iPOD. I had been right, the man continued to say the boy would grow up to be a foggot and a little queer right till the poor little fella stopping crying. I felt like turning around and saying something like “I’m a faggot and I don’t appreciate you usung the word like that” but I’m not that brave. It was horrible and as they exited the bus I just felt so sorry for kids.
I’m not one to comment on how other people raise their children, I’m not lucky enough to have any myself and I can only imagine the stress two kids can put you under, but this outburst was abhorrent and I just can’t get it out of my mind.
What chance do those kids have of growing up open minded and respectful of all types of people? It’s repugnant to think that at such a young age they can be “brain washed” with someone else’s ignorance. Don’t get me wrong, I know this happens I know children are thought to hate, no one is born to discriminate, kids love openly and honestly, but to see it in such a violent outburst was deeply disturbing.
It’s no wonder that minorities are still marginalised, when this kind of loathing is still being passed on to the next generation. Sometimes I convince myself that things are changing and then something like this happens and it’s like a punch in the face.
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That is a disgrace, I read alot of stuff over the last few days in relation to Prop 8, someone made a comment which I hope isn’t true “there are two types of straight people one’s that hate you to your face, ones that hate you behind your back”. That homophobic pig thinking he could get his little boy to stop crying by saying he would grow up to be gay. Kids throw around hateful words all too often, and they have to come from somewhere. Sometimes I think parents like that have never met a gay person, how else could you explain specking about another human being like that. don’t know whether I would have been able to sit there and say nothing.
Thanks for the comment Sue.
I’d have loved to say something but this guy was massive and looked like he could take me blindfolded.
He was a very intimidating person, but you’re right, I propably should have said something.
I think we can all be guilty of using ignorant words, I find myself using words like “scanger” and I shouldn’t. I don’t mean iit in a derogatory way, just discriptive, but I still shouldn’t. Words like that have no place in communication.
There were layers to what that man did this morning though – layers of hatred and ignorance. It really got to me. Not only that he would use words like that but that he thinks threatening his little boy with it will scare the child into doing what he has asked.
It just defies logic
it is easy for me to say I would have done something i wasn’t there. I have found myself in similar circumstances and have told people that the language that they use isn’t acceptable. They were not big scary guys.
People use words like gay, gayer, lezzer etc in my work alot, everytime they use it I have to correct them, some people find it acceptable, it also defies logic
You’r right. the people where I work used to say that the odd time but they know not to now – it’s unacceptable.
Imagine someone threatening their child though – if you do that you’ll grow up gay. It’s just mind boggling
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