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I think LGBTQ people can “see” each other as we are open to the notion that some people are actually not straight – what a shocker.  Whereas straight people just don’t even think about it
If that’s gaydar then yes, we have one
Gooner said:
Tue, Jun 1, 2010 at 3:17 pm

I have to say I am dire, but I think its because I am totally non stereotypical so I don’t expect others to be stereotypical either.  Then again a lot of straight people “look gay” in the eyes of others so its not exactly unusual.
Laura said:
Tue, Jun 1, 2010 at 3:45 pm

As with all subcultures there are signs, signals, etc. It’s not about dressing gay, or gay haircuts, but even attitude — but it might be the way a woman pays attention to another woman in a group.  Sometimes it’s a mutual recognition and that’s one of my favourite things in the world. It’s as if you can both see the question in the other.
Of course, our subculture is built on a need for mutual support and to avoid persecution, which is a sad fact, but it shapes our collective behaviours.
CanuckJacq said:
Tue, Jun 1, 2010 at 4:52 pm

That’s a good point, Gooner – many straight people apply what I call “the presumption of heterosexuality.”  That is, everyone is presumed to be straight unless proven otherwise.
click here said:
Thu, Jun 3, 2010 at 8:53 am

Gaydar is pretty fine-tuned most of the time!
AnnieAura said:
Sat, Jun 5, 2010 at 12:39 pm

I used to be dire with gaydar – my married sister could spot the gays quicker than I could – but having applied myself in recent years, I happy to say that my gaydar is much improved these days, as  I can correctly identify a fellow homo  in moments!
shauna said:
Tue, Jun 8, 2010 at 10:55 am

I am atrocious. You’d probably have to paint yourself rainbow before the penny would even begin to drop with me. I don’t know how I’m ever going to find a first girlfriend at the rate I’m going. :/
Elaine said:
Fri, Jun 11, 2010 at 12:10 am

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