Becoming The Mammy, part 4: Is it ok to crowdsource sperm?
Crowdsourcing: delegating a task to a large diffuse group, usually without monetary compensation
This is getting pretty tedious. I mean at first, it was a little bit interesting. There was stuff to learn, cycles to track, temperatures to take.
Now, it’s getting annoying. Trying to co-ordinate my body’s schedule with the schedule of our sperm-donor is — at best — awkward. At worst, it’s almost futile.
The more socially unacceptable side of me keeps thinking I should try and find a donor anonymously on the internet. A Twitter account would be all I’d need to find the sperm donor of our dreams, right?
But, local is a huge plus. Co-ordinating schedules is less of a mess then. Then again, local would freak me out a bit as well. Would seeing the child on a regular basis make him decide he wants more involvement than we agreed? The law would be on his side.
And I’m unlikely to find another guy I trust as much as I trust the donor we have right now. But I’m going to have to try.
Going to a clinic would be an option, but we really could stand to keep the money that it would cost. IUI — when we priced it years ago — was €1000 a go. Given that it’s not like each try is a sure thing, that gets awfully expensive.
And so I’m sitting at my computer, very tempted to sign up to Twitter and say, “Got sperm?” and see what happens. Of course, that’s insane.
We’ve been a little tight lipped about what we’re trying. Personally, I’m not that bothered, but my partner is more cautious about things and I respect that. But what widening our search might mean is bringing more people into the experience. Putting the word out.
God my life is weird.
No related posts.