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  1. Abi

    For christ’s sake is the girl not entitled to keep her private life private? I’m out to pretty much everybody including the people I work with, but not the customers I serve, not because I’m ashamed but because its none of their business! Whatever about it being ok to be gay, its still brings unwanted stupid questions and wisecracks. Even if I wasn’t gay, I’d want to keep my private life private. That being said if anybody ever does say something like “thats gay” I will tell them to cop on! The girl isn’t out there saying being gay is wrong, she’s an LGBT supporter and so what if she wants to keep her private life private!

    This outing was not for the greater LGBT cause, it was to satisfy voyeuristic obsessions with celebrities personal lives. Not celeberity likes to wear their personal life on their sleeve, and their right should be respected, and god knows maybe we should admire Ellen Page for not being famous for her personal life and instead for her acting talent.

  2. [...] Have the ethics of outing changed? Ellen Page has been outed. Which isn’t really huge or scandalous news. A lot of people have believed she’s bisexual for a long time. She has never denied or confirmed it, but she has always been unambiguously pro-gay. Since she hasn’t ever confirmed or denied, it’s still, officially, all speculation. What makes her outing interesting [...] [...]

  3. I still think I’m inclined to agree with Rachel Maddow, but at the same time really understanding where Racheline Maltese is coming from. I work with the public too, and while I don’t tell every customer I’m gay, sometimes we’ll be talking and I’ll get asked about my wedding ring “Oh, an Irish man” they’ll say. And I do make a calculation in my head about each one and decide whether I’m going to play the pronoun game or whether I’m just going to out and say it. Everytime I have, it’s not been a big deal. But, yeah, it’s still my choice. And if I think it should remain my choice, I have to side with allowing public figures their choice too, even if I really wish they’d just get over it.

  4. Gooner

    I have to agree with Maddow also. It does no one any good to see somneone outted and look terrified at the prospect, hiding from the press and crying faul.

  5. Jenn M

    The first girl I dated ended up getting me fired because she would not come out, and my boss thought I was sexually harassing her. When asked if I was doing this, she did not say ‘no’, for fear of coming out. My boss then refused to give me any holiday work when I came back from University, despite having given me some the previous holiday. Later, the girl I was dating told me why this was.

    This is the only time I have ever experienced serious homophobia that actually affected my life. I was out at this time, in 2000 it was still an odd issue for some people, especially teenagers (I was 17), but I would not have stayed in the closet for anything. I realised there are better places to work (the whole ethos was very homophobic within the older members of the team), and got on with my life.

    I would never out anyone intentionally, more for the reprocussions on my own life than anyone elses, but I think everyone should be out, proud and visible. If my 84-year-old Liverpudlian grandmother can deal with it well, treating me in the same way she treats my hetero- cousins, asking me if I have a ‘special friend’ yet, anyone can.

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