Niamh ain’t happy
On a recent trip to a well-known gay bar in Dublin, I witnessed the door staff turning away three well-dressed young women from their establishment stating ‘’It’s not your night lads’’.
This got me thinking to times that my straight friends and I had been turned away from similar night clubs with the same statement. Naïve me thought it was simply because these places were exclusive and very difficult to get in to, when in reality it was probably for a much less exciting reason.
Why is it that if a girl and her friends approach a gay club decked in heels and a frock, they have a very high chance of not getting in? In this day of fighting to be seen as an inclusive part of society and not a separate niche, are we closing ourselves off from our heterosexual counterparts by excluding them from participating in the gay social scene?
Now don’t get me wrong, of course gay bars are a mecca for hen parties and such, but in the incidents I have experienced, if you are not part of a novelty Christmas/hen/stag do then you can be judged by your appearance when seeking entry to certain venues. Am I as a lesbian expected to dress like a member of One Direction to go for a few drinks? Are ‘’femme’’ girls not welcome in the male-dominated gay circle?
All questions which have caused me to consider whether or not the many gay stereotypes used internally by gay people young and old, have caused irreversible damage to the scene as it stands.
This is not something I expected from a scene as large and varied as the one in Dublin, and I for one will not be donning chinos any time soon for the sake of a night out.