A recent article in The Irish Times celebrated the ordinariness of same-sex parents. But this merely serves to minimise the difficulties faced by same-sex parents in Ireland. Here’s one woman’s view.
Next month it is expected that the government will publish the heads of the new Children and Family Relationships Bill which will hopefully bring major family law reform one step further along in Irish law. The new bill will deal with issues of surrogacy, non-marital fathers, civil partners, step parents and assisted reproduction.
I mean, we have wanted kids these last ten years. And had been actively trying for three. But it’s still terrifying to think that in a few months, we’ll be responsible for this little bundle.
In a major development up North, the Court of Appeal has ruled that it is discriminatory to rule out potential adoptive parents based on the fact that they are in a same sex relationship.
They had only one go at IUI, and d’you know something? It worked! Our one stab at IUI with donor sperm worked, and here I sit, headachy, exhausted, nauseated and emotional, and almost 3 months pregnant.
IUI (Intrauterine Insemination) is the first clinical step for lesbians who are trying to conceive a baby. It involves directly injecting washed semen into the uterus so that it is really close to the egg being released.
Many things can be tested for during a pregnancy. Many things can be tested before, when you start with IUI. How much do you want to know? How much do you think you should know?
Becoming gay parents isn’t easy or cheap. And it’s sad that it’s such a financial struggle to just get to the point of having a child, when so many couples out there are so willing to do so if only they could afford it.
Pure and simple disbelief is, in my experience, a pretty common response to the news that under current legislation the non-biological or non-adoptive parent in a same-sex partnership has no legal relationship to their own children.
Lesbians can parent! I know many people find it hard to believe, but apparently two dedicated adults are likely bring up reasonably adjusted kids. The gender and sexuality of those adults doesn’t appear to be a big factor so long as the quality of their parenting is good.
The Irish state believes that same-sex couples can, on a short term basis, provide stable, loving family environments, where a child can be nurtured and educated, with the best interests of the child at heart, just as well as any straight couple.
Last night, Darren Kennedy presented “Gay Daddy” on RTÉ, a look at the options gay men have in Ireland today if they want to start a family. If you’ve been paying attention, you know this had the potential to be a very short program. It isn’t though, and you can catch it on RTÉ … [Read more...]
We decided to ask family for money instead of gifts and try and save up for a round of IUI. We got the pricelist, checked the clinic website, and saved up. We made an appointment. We left a lot poorer than we expected.
It’s been about two years now that we’ve been trying with a known donor and all the best Internet chatrooms recommended methods for getting pregnant. Nothing has worked. It’s time to get serious as I’m approaching a serious age. Our families have chipped in, in lieu of birthday and Christmas presents, and we have an appointment at a fertility clinic.
Myself and my partner were together a few years when we made the decision to try for a small person. That biological clock business, it’s not an old wife’s tail. One minute you’re happy out, next minute you’re brooding over every single baby you see. One of the first things that strike you is that, despite what we hear, it’s not that easy to get pregnant.
I get asked this a lot. The age ranges are startling to me. Given that I didn’t figure it out until I was 20, I’m flabbergasted these kids have figured things out, in some cases, before they’ve learned to read. Nobody has asked me this who isn’t 100% committed to making sure that the child … [Read more...]