I am in two minds about the use of umbrella terms. On one hand, I worry that it creates an us-them mentality and that it erases our individuality. On the other hand, I believe in unity and community.
After the many fragmentations and horrid situations that happened due to the so-called sex wars of the 1980s, the internet has made it so many of us share spaces again. Nowadays, we are more likely to see it phrased as ‘sex positive’ feminism versus ‘sex negative/critical’ feminism.
Apparently there are certain things that you aren’t meant to tell your significant other about. I was told that sex is one of these things. Is this right? Can I talk abut sex with my girlfriend?
If they identify as a man, they are a man. If they identify as a woman, they are a woman. If they are genderqueer, they are genderqueer, and so this sentence pattern will continue with any other gender expression people choose to identify with.
Cis people have an issue with dating trans* people. The queer community claims a lot of openmindedness around gender and sex, and in my experience, I find this to be true in terms of support and friendship and education. Dating? Not so much.
The main subject of Oh Joy Sex Toy is sex toys tested and reviewed by Erika and her husband. If you’re interested in toys, this is definitely the comic for you, and even if you don’t have a lot of interest in them, the reviews are fun to read regardless as it’s friendly and oddly cute.
One thing I hadn’t anticipated is getting used to how someone else talks, and them getting used to me. I don’t mean deciphering a new accent; I’m referring to Sexy Talk. Everybody has different names and phrases they have for parts of their bodies.
Your vagina. What do you like about it? How do you feel about it? Do you like how you feel? Recently Sydney University’s newspaper, Honi Suit, was removed from stands because its cover portrayed 18 vulvas. 18 vulvas censored with large black bars. Why the shame?
Man, starting college is the best. It’s probably the first time you are gonna be spending loads of time around other gayers. And chances are, some of these new queerios are gonna want to bone you. Exciting! But wait, you have never done that before! How do you even do it?
An article on the College Times website caused a furor with its hints at alcoholic lack of consent in its Guide to One Night Stands. But was it just telling the truth?
You’ve just made love, again, and the slight sweat and sweet scents of bodies is still in the air, you’re wrapped in each others arms, lighting dozing. Then suddenly you remember: could we get cancer from what we’ve just done?
We found out on Sunday that my civil partner is pregnant. Pregnant. As in ‘having a baby’. I write those short sentences to try and shock myself into believing it.
Why is there no good lesbian porn out there? And does anyone actually have sex in their stilettos? And no body hair?
A really cool and impressive thing that most ladies can do is grow a baby. As skills go, this is in my opinion at least as impressive as riding a skateboard through a flaming hoop backwards, or not cocking up the first pancake. But much like the many burned up skateboards and gloopy, deformed … [Read more...]
I haven’t had sex in a year. There, just putting that out there. Or rather I’m not putting anything out there, and that’s kinda the point.
If you’ve been part of conversations concerning gay and bi women’s sexuality you probably heard about dental dams. Sometimes called glyde dams, they are small sheets of latex which act as a barrier to infection when performing oral sex on a woman. If you’re in college, or have been in the last few years, you may have come across them … [Read more...]